Friday, February 20
Be gentle and ready to forgive; never hold grudges. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. - Colossians 3:13 (TLB)
"Charlene, honey, don't you think it is time you forgive Bob?" That was how my very wise Mother began a telephone conversation in 1991. I had been divorced for ten years and thought I was doing "just fine". However, I finally realized that I was not doing "just fine" but that I was, in fact, holding a grudge that was affecting my behavior and relationships with friends and family.
I had lost my best friend in that divorce. When my worst fears of his lack of steadfast loyalty to me had been confirmed, I could not reconcile with that fact and we ended our marriage of 21 years and friendship of 25 years. We did our best to remain "civil" for our friends, family, and more importantly our three daughters.
Little did I know how my lack of forgiveness was wearing on my relationships but more importantly, on me. And, once I forgave him my world did indeed become a brighter place. Our friendship is again intact. My friends like that, my family likes that, my children especially like that, and I REALLY like that!
Lord, thank you for lifting that heavy burden from my shoulders, I love YOU for that. Amen